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Self Compassion and Social Work

Self Compassion and Social Work

Self-Compassion is a component of working in the field of Social Work that isn’t discussed as much as it should be. Self-Compassion is something that can’t be taught in a classroom. It is something that is learned along the journey of gaining experience in the field. Individuals in the field of Social Work, as well as other fields, have to have a special gift to be able to do the work that we do. Our jobs aren't easy, yet they can be rewarding in the end. Before a person gains self-compassion, they usually experience the negative side of the field. Social Work is a career path that can cause burnout however, you have to be able to view the overall outlook in situations. 

Self Compassion: Building the House You Live In

Self Compassion: Building the House You Live In

“A word after a word after a word is power.” Margaret Atwood tells us. “You cannot build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.” teaches Ram Dass. “The words you speak become the house you live in.” writes the poet Hafiz. All three offer the wisdom that how we speak to and about ourselves influences the ways we show up in the world and engage with others. Language helps us to make meaning of our experiences. When the stories we tell about ourselves are full of demeaning, unkind, and unsympathetic words and phrases, it increases our stress levels, makes it more difficult for us to be kind and compassionate to others, and over time, significantly decreases our motivation to actually make positive changes in our lives (Neff, 2011). 

Self-Compassion? Is it REALLY Necessary?

Self-Compassion? Is it REALLY Necessary?

We all encounter uncomfortable spaces, personal and professional challenges, and emotionally shattering situations that stretch the limits of who we are, where we’re going, what we look like afterward. Even with perseverance, the positive self-image, and self-talk that once characterized our being may be distorted or nonexistent. As we begin to put the pieces of ourselves back into place, self-compassion is necessary to accept our present selves and transition to the person we desire to be. How can we begin to show ourselves compassion both consistently and effectively? How does this practice establish the foundation for healthy, caring relationships with others in our world? 

Anger and Self - Compassion

Anger and Self - Compassion

What does this image bring you? Beginner's Mind? Curiosity? Non-Judgement? Self Acceptance? Peace? Good. Notice your body. Notice your breathing. Greater Mindfulness is the intention. Today I invite you to a 5 min Anger de-escalation exercise. Close your eyes. Today I want you to take yourself to an upsetting situation where you did not feel safe.

What is Self-Compassion?

What is Self-Compassion?

Self Compassion is recognizing when we’re stressed or struggling without being judgemental or over-reading. Everyone has hurdles in life, and our day to day activities can bring along stress and anxiety that we sometimes blame ourselves for. Being supportive and understanding towards ourselves when we are having a hard time, rather than being harshly self critical can help our self esteem long term. By remembering that everyone makes mistakes and experiences difficulties, we realize that we are not alone and that there is room for everyone to grow.

Self- Acceptance: The Person in the Mirror

Self- Acceptance: The Person in the Mirror

Low self-esteem/self-worth is a manifestation of the lack of acceptance or rejection of oneself. Unfortunately, I have been all too familiar with this concept, and it is an area in that I continue performing soul work within. Recently, I experienced an epiphany regarding acceptance in my own life around acceptance that I would like to share with the reader. 

Self - Kindness was my Key to Self - Compassion

Self - Kindness was my Key to Self - Compassion

“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.” – Christopher Germer

Be kind. It is a simple concept and one that many people try to live by. We often try to extend kindness to others and to treat other people with respect, but why is it so hard to be kind to ourselves? I have often been described as a kind person.

Self-Compassion: Builiding the House You Live in

Self-Compassion: Builiding the House You Live in

“A word after a word after a word is power.” Margaret Atwood tells us. “You cannot build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.” teaches Ram Dass. “The words you speak become the house you live in.” writes the poet Hafiz. All three offer the wisdom that how we speak to and about ourselves influences the ways we show up in the world and engage with others. Language helps us to make meaning of our experiences.