Loss is an inevitable part of life that impacts everyone in different ways. Loss can come in various forms, from the passing of a spouse, to the loss of a friendship, even to the termination of employment. As we have pushed through the peak of the COVID-19 pandemic, we come to a terrifying realization of how quickly life, relationships, and/or jobs can be taken out of our grasp. For those managing the aftermath of loss, the following transition can be hard and protracted, almost unbearable to some.

Grief is the individual’s natural response to a loss. The time after loss when mourning occurs is known as bereavement. Grief is unique to everyone and is a normal part of the human experience. Processing through grief is said to occur over 5 stages, as noted by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. These stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Some clinicians argue that grief occurs over 7 stages. The length and transition through each stage are dependent on the individual.

How do we process our grief or help those close to us move through theirs? It can seem impossible to move on from loss. Grief can cycle through life, and certain events or seasons can open healed wounds. Rather than moving on from the hurt, pain, and loss; moving forward with the loss and the grief is more realistic. Seeking help with professional services and social support can be beneficial in moving through grief. Other techniques to cope may include being vocal about your emotions, postponing major life events such as moving or remarrying, checking in with your physical health, identifying reasons to live, and providing yourself with grace and patience. In addition to the previous techniques, offering sincere comfort and holding space are noted to be crucial in assisting others with coping. 

Grief and loss are hard, complex, and uncomfortable. It can be unexpected or anticipated. The grieving process can range from days to years. All in all, patience, support, and grace are important in moving forward and managing life, even as grief cycles through. Moving forward is not letting go of what was lost. It is moving with that loss in a way that allows for a healthy life and future.

References

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/types-of-grief

https://www.mhanational.org/bereavement-and-grief

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khkJkR-ipfw